When we hold a placement ceremony, both the birth and adoptive parents will often be present. In the moment when adoptive parents receive the placement of their child, there is a mixture of sadness, excitement, hope, guilt, and happiness. Their dreams are coming true. Yet, at the exact same moment they realize that another person’s heart is breaking. The adoptive parents often feel responsible for causing those feelings of heartbreak, feelings that they have often had in the past as well. They know these feelings first hand and don’t want someone else to go through that pain. At the same time, the adoptive parents experience great joy. They are finally receiving the gift that they have been asking God for, sometimes for years and years.
Often times, it seems that each side is unprepared for the mix of emotions that happen in such a short amount of time. Each experience is unique. Everyone’s perspective is different.
Everyone told me when I started as an adoption worker that being part of an adoptive placement makes the job worthwhile. This is so true. I think each placement made is a miracle. I feel honored and privileged to play such a small role in this miracle.
-Cristina, Adoption Supervisor